Jon Hounshell
In the English language, we have many idioms for how we react in confrontational moments—those times when our views and opinions clash with someone else. Mildly, we may get our “feathers ruffled,” becoming uncomfortable or irritated and sending signals that we’re annoyed. In extreme cases, we may “fly off the handle,” like an axe head let loose in a swing, flipping and flopping toward uncontrollable damage.
This scripture reminds us to react differently:
Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time. Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person. Colossians 4:5-6
Paul uses the term “outsiders” to refer to non-believers, but whether the difference is one of faith, culture, or politics, there will always be those with whom we do not see eye to eye. Yet this scripture urges us to treat each interaction as precious—a chance to respond differently than today’s society often does. Paul prescribes that our speech be “seasoned with salt.” In the Aramaic language, this idiom refers to speech that is friendly and clear, making others thirsty for truth—drawing out the best in people rather than putting them down or shutting them out.
Let’s take the opportunity to set a new tone in our homes, our workplaces, and all our circles. In moments of disagreement, we can take the high road. Yes, we should stand up for truth—but grace and compassion can make our words more palatable.
Listening Prompt
Think about the last time you were at odds with a loved one, a co-worker, or even someone on social media. What was your tone? Were your responses withering and condescending, or were your words drenched in grace and seasoned with salt? How might you have responded differently?
Prayer
As this new year begins, ask the Holy Spirit for wisdom to help you pause before reacting with harsh words.
